Marvin Winans Denies Baby Dedication to Single Mom?

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Single mom: Son born out of wedlock snubbed by Winans’ church

Charity Grace lives on the east side of the city with her 2-year-old son, Joshua. The two recently started to attend Perfecting Church under the leadership of Pastor Marvin Winans.On Sunday, a special blessing is planned at the church on East Nevada Street. They are having a dedication service for children two years old and under. Grace was looking forward to having her only child receive this blessing.

“I want to instill values and morals in my son based upon the word of God,” said Grace.She called the church on Tuesday to make arrangements. “I told them I was not married and that’s where everything just broke loose.”Grace says she spoke with a woman who told her Pastor Winans’ policy is that he is not to bless children of unwed mothers in front of his congregation.

“I’ve never felt so degraded and disrespected in my life,” said Grace.Rev. W.J. Rideout III of All God’s People Church speaks out about injustice outside the church and all over the world. So, we asked if he thought this was an injustice inside the church.
“Every pastor has set up the pattern of his church, the way he feels or deems fit. But as it relates to the scripture, I feel like it’s wrong,” said  Rideout. “I feel like we’re judging, but we’re not judging with righteous judgement.”

We asked to speak with Pastor Winans about the allegations. He declined an interview.
“What they could do for me is let my son get dedicated, during a week day with one of the elders of my choice,” said Grace.

“I’m not speaking against the pastor, but sometimes we make poor decisions,” said Rideout.

“I absolutely would not set foot back in the church right now because I feel like they look down upon me and my kind, meaning single moms and unwed mothers. The church should be the last place you should go to be judged and denied,” said Grace.

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  1. Caroline A. Hinton Reply

    I watched a movie years ago,which depicted a time in our history when unwed mothers received a lot of hardship because they were not married to their child’s father; and a woman social worker said: “…There are no illegitimate babies, just illegitimate parents.” While pastors in general, have to make a stand against immoral acts (having sex outside of marriage, whether a child is born as a result of the act, or not), we have to find a better way to bless our children. And this way of not Christianing (blessing) babies whose parents were not married to each other, has been a way of our churches for many, many decades. So, God bless, our beloved pastors, and also may He bless our babies, and also our beloved church members, especially the new converts, In Jesus Name.

    • Tammie Reply

      Amen, you are absolutely right. Getting married to the father of the child you bear doesn’t make everything right. And we see this when a woman has to endure turmoil and sexual subordination to someone who she doesn’t love for several years, usually until the child is 18, simply because she became impregnated and wants to live up to religious morals. God does love sinners too and the children are children of God and should receive God’s blessing upon birth as He allowed them to enter into this world – perhaps for His purpose not ours.

  2. Sophia Petty Reply

    RANDOM THOUGHT: “Church People” can be so judgmental, literally and hypocritically. Our job is not to condemn, rather let the Holy Spirit convict. Condemnation equates to criticism. Conviction is what will lead to correction, thus formulating change. We need to allow the Holy Spirit to do his job.

    Side Note: Godly rebuke is not judgmental…

    The above is a status that I posted yesterday on Facebook. It precisely pertains to this situation. Pastor Winans is not judging the lady by having a baby out of wedlock. He is merely rebuking her. To rebuke means to have an expression of strong disapproval, to reprimand or to correct. The bible says, “Them that sin rebuke before all, that others also may fear” (1 Timothy 5:20 KJV).

    The young lady was NOT denied a blessing for her child. She was told that the Pastor is unable to bless the child in front of the congregation due to her child being conceived out of wedlock, which is a sin. I believe the overall message that Pastor Winans was trying to make is in accordance to the above scripture. We will bless you in private because we don’t want to allow others to believe that it is acceptable to have children out of wedlock.

    We are not to bring what is deemed the norm in society as tolerable in the church. God’s divine order under the marriage covenant is: Husband (man) and Wife (woman) procreate and have children (Genesis 1:27-28). The unwed mother was out of the will of God. So, Pastor Winans was correct in his rebuke.

    Yes, ALL children are a blessing. They are a gift from God. However, the church needs to set an example of how God originally intended a family to be structured. I ABSOLUTELY DO NOT like the judgmental hypocrisy of some believers. I abhor it! But this situation is clearly correction and not judgment.

    The church has to take a stand for holiness. We can’t expect the church to patty-cake our wrong doings. There must be accountability for our actions. The church’s viewpoint has to be what the word of God says and not what we think it should be or based upon our emotional senses.

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